T:New to this and need some advice	Q:Hello,  I'm here because I don't know where to start.
I'm <age> years old and recently became a new mom.
I was living across the country and when I was pregnant decided to move back.
My father is <age>,  always had a bad memory and fell about <time_period> ago buffing a floor and had a serious concussion,  and worked as a baggage handler for the airlines for <time_period>.
Very slowly I've noticed some memory issues,  but very minor.
Until this past <month> he had some serious health problems that called for a pretty serious operation.
He never had been sic,  in fact hadn't had a check up in about <time_period> up.
After the surgery,  he was not recovering,  he had a urinary tract infection that was causing him to exhibit signs of confusion.
That cleared up,  and he got better,  but had to spend <time_period> ina skilled <institution>.
After this,  I notice times where he is in a sort of daze,  for a few seconds,  and I think he snaps out of it then tries to cover it up.
He will ask me something,  I'll answer and the next question is the same.
It's not often,  but enough.
Sometimes he'll get something in his head and ask me about it,  and it doesn't make ,  almost like my answers aren't good enough or what he wants to hear.
I planned on addressing this after all the other health issues and surgeries were finished and he just had his last surgery last week and then his brother in law passed away and his sister is in the <institution>.
My thing is we never really connected emotionally and he still thinks I'm a little kid.
Even after I have been his health advocate and fought to get his health straightened out,  he'd be dead if it weren't for me.
I don't think I can handle talking to him about this and I don't know how to address it with him and be emotionally there for him.
His long time friend recently passed away and had alzheimers for <time_period> and it was painful for him to see,  so that's all he knows about it.
I think a friend or someone else needs to address with him.
Does anyone know what I mean?
Its very hard to write what I'm feeling about that.
Where do I start?
I havea place to take him to get testing done,  thanks for listening.
Any advice will help	A:To <name> New member/[ i.  e. to the person who yesterday posted on this website and asked about how to address father's memory loss.
----]I hope the following information will help:1 ) here is an article about how to talk to a parent about Alzheimer's.
Also,  keep in mind that,  pertaining to Alzheimer's treatment,  there is a traditional medicine/western medicine approach which involves various medications [but the medications do not cure Alzheimer's] and there is also an alternative medicine approach to Alzheimer's which involves things such as [for example] the information in the <name> readings,  chiropractic,  sleeping on temper pedic neck support pillow,  vitamin therapy,  colonics,  and also more recently includes the use of coconut oil such as <name> coconut oil for cases of Alzheimer's disease / i.  e. see the work of <name>,  her husband had Alzheimer's disease and she gave him the coconut oil and,  if I understood correctly,  his consumption of the coconut oil reportedly reversed his Alzheimer's symptoms and cured him.
See the following websites: luck to you.
God bless.
Pray and remember that miracles can happen.
A:Hello <name> .
You mentioned you have a place to get testing done.
I assume you mean testing for either alzheimers or dementia - and I would guess a <professional_practitioner> or similar <professional_practitioner> would be involved with the testing.
After you find out what the memory problem likely is,  I would ask that <professional_practitioner> if there are any sources the <professional_practitioner> would recommend for telling your Father about the disease - video or otherwise.
Maybe .
it would be possible for a medical person to tell your Father - if he has one that he trusts!
Proper diagnosis is first.
My Mother just recently (less than  <time_period> go) passed away from the end conditions of Dementia.
The dementia,  as well as,  alzheimers is typically a disease spread over a long timeframe .
and is not cureable.
My Mother had it and hid it for <time_period> before it was diagnosed.
Once it was diagnosed,  it was already in advancing stages.
The <professional_practitioner> refused her release from the <institution> to go home - unless she had 24/7 care.
So for the next <time_period>,  she did live at <institution> with a fulltime caregiver service.
There came a point with her halucinations that she was back in the <institution> - this time under the care of a <professional_practitioner> for a <time_period>.
Upon being released,  the <professional_practitioner> said she would not be allowed to go home - even with a 24/7 <professional_caregiver>.
She now needed some care by an <professional_caregiver>.
So she then went into an <institution> - specializing in Dementia and Parkinsons.
She was ther for <time_period> until she passed in <month>.
She was on Hospice for about her last <time_period> while in the <institution>.
It is a very difficult thing to watch a loved one slowly deteriorate.
I think initially,  your Father will be sensitive to how he is told and by whom,  if it is one of the memory diseases.
And that may continue as he gets mentally worse.
I think that depends on the person individually.
It is a very good idea to read as much as possible about it .
BUT only after you know what IT is!
So the diagnosis is so important.
By the way,  my Mother was lucky enough not to have any major operations in her whole life - or cancer or any other major illness.
My guess is that the Dementia may have started <time_period> or longer ago!
One other thought - there might be a social worker thru a <professional_practitioner> office or <institution> that could talk to your father after the diagnosis.
It might be the best type of person to explain to him what would need to be told.
Peace and wellness <name> & <name>
