T:New to this topic and desperate for advice	Q:Hello,  I am new to this topic but not to the forum. I have been buzzing around a bit and finally decided to land and see what happens. My husband and I are currently living with his father who has the beginnig stages of Alzheimers or so we were told. I have some understanding of what this disease is and what it can cause. My father in law started out with problems trying to explain things to people but couldn't find the words,  has trouble remembering the month, year his own phone number. He is still able to take care of himself as far as toileting,  showering and some other things. My husband and I have both noticed that he is getting angry over little things and doesn't always use his best judgement. My husband and I do not know how to approach this issue with him. He is cranky the majority of each day and we do our best to help when he can't figure something out. my husband and I are very concernd with him being so short. I need all the advice I can get,  I have no Idea what to do or how to do it. He does have a <professional_practitioner>'s appointment on the <date> but he will not tell his <professional_practitioner> about this. He trys to avoid telling his <professional_practitioner> alot of things. Usually it's my husband that does. This is diffrent we don't want to upset him. So I would apprichiate any advice given,  thank you! 	A:There may not be a way around upsetting him and your husband needs to tell the <professional_practitioner> what has been happening. Perhaps the <professional_practitioner> can figure out the cause of these memory lapses and mood changes - whether it is indeed Alzheimer's or another form of dementia. He than can be placed on medications to slow the progression and/or mood stabilizers.  


A:There should not be any problem with your husband speaking privately with the <professional_practitioner>. It might even be while his father is taking a memory evaluation,  or a <professional_practitioner> is getting some data like weight and blood pressure and a blood sample.  There are of course meds and natural therapies that can be taken for depression (the anger/frustration with losing memory) as well as for memory support. Good luck! 


A:Welcome to Healing Well,  <name>. Your best bet is a medical professional to evaluate him. Memory lapses can be dementia or Alzheimer's,  even just plain old age,  caused by a disease,  a side effect of a medication,  so much. Your husband can call the <professional_practitioner>,  privately,  like outside of the house and clue them on what is going on without your father hearing it,  so it wouldn't be as upsetting.  


A:Welcome <name> Dealing with a parent with a diminshed memory is very trying. Your husband needs to call the <professional_practitioner> and speak to him and then have his father evaluated and then go from there.  You keep us updated on how your father-in-law is doing.  <name>
