T:DENIAL	Q:My mom has alz,  my sister and I think she is in denial. How do we deal with this,  she wont even let me go to <professional_practitioner>'s appt with her. How do we go on in the future and help her if she is in denial. I'm very worried. Is this common? My sister is also has notice that my mom is getting a little hostle. She has never been hostle with me,  I know that this is part of alz,  but I would of thought she would be hostle with everyone.  Any thoughts would be appreciated.  <name>	A:Can you get your Mom to sign POA so you can be informed? ? Also DPOA for legal/monetary things. 


A:Yes,  denial is part of it just like it is with any chronic illness. I agree on the POA. If you can get her to sign you or someone else as one right now,  it will make things easier if she was to progress. If you can get her to sign a POA,  then she has no say if you were to go into the docs with her. Hostility is common with AZ. My Gma would get hostile with my daughter,  but in her eyes my son and I could do no wrong. I hated doing it,  truly,  but because of this reason,  I had to my Gma out of my house and into <institution> - my daughter was only <age> at the time and took my Gma's hostility hard.  


A:Denial is huge. My Mom has been dx'd with dementia,  but both of my parents were in denial. We tried to get homecare,  etc. for them to no avail. They kept saying they were fine. I finally told my Dad that he would need to come to us when he decided they needed more care. Finally he did that just a <time_period> ago. He told me that my Mom is wearing him out because she misplaces things all the time. My Mom who was the sweetest being on earth has become irritable. I think it's because she knows that things are not normal for her and it must be tough not being able to remember events,  where you put things,  etc. I also had to put my foot down about <professional_practitioner> appts. I told them that I needed to be with. I explained to the <professional_practitioner> when we went in that I needed to represent my Mom,  and she agreed. I signed a power of attorney form so I can access her online <professional_practitioner>'s records/appointments. Take care and good luck with your Mom.  


A:Drnial NOT the river, lol. 
