T:Best way to introduce the outside Help?	Q:We have been strictly taking care of my Grandmother by family. This week <day> will be our first time having outside respite. How do I introduce this into her life? She still has some mind and is against people being with her as it is.  Post Edited By Moderator (<name>) : <date><time> (GMT-6)	A:Is there any way this outside help can come over before you leave your Gma with them? To get to know your Gma a little and visa versa?


A:Tell her its a very good family friend. think out of the box.  


A:Thats a good idea  <name>,  thanks. <name>,  I can ask if they can come a <time_period> befor ehand.  


A:Dementia can cause some really bad insecurities and not trusting people they don't know. If at all possible,  can someone be there with this person along with your grandma? When I brought someone in to help care for my mom,  I told mom that she was there to help ME. My mother to this day and she is <time_period> into AD,  at least from diagnosis,  so probably much longer,  she still doesn't think she needs help and fights off anyone that tries to help her with a shower,  etc. except if it is one of her daughters. She is such a proud and stubborn woman! But,  that doesn't happen with everyone. It just worked better for us to tell mom the help was for me,  to help around the house,  and then she seemed more acceptable of her presence.  Good luck! <name>


A:THank you hon. I had my mother arrange to come and be with the lady for a <time_period> to help ease things. Lets hope it works


A:Crossing my fingers for you <name>! 


A:Wondering how things are n how you n mom are doing <name>


A:I think my grandma has sun downs or something like that. She gets worse and restless in the night. Today she was cussing me out because she asked me why the cat wasnt eating so i said You fed her <num> times earlier today so I bet shes full and I got cussed out for that. *scratches head* My mom is going to come in for a <time_period> next month and take care of grandma so I can get a break. So lookin forward to a <time_period> off! 


A:It's very common for dementia/AZ patients to get more confused at night. My gma had sundowner's too but she seemed worse on cloudy days. I dreaded cloudy days! lol But I'm glad you are going to be able to take a break. We all need that break so we can take a breath and relax a bit.  


A:I already planned my break LOL! I'm going to McMennamins hotel and restraunt,  staying there for a night and enjoying their soaking spa. Then I staying at the weekend at a friends,  and going to a childs bday party with my kid. I'm loving this adventure


A:Ah that sounds like heaven! I love spas :)
