T:Help with losing a pet	Q:Hi,  i'm new to the site. My mother has Alzheimer's and my Dad is her caretaker. I make sure I go over every week to help give my dad help with my mom. the reason i am here is to see what we can do mom,  she has a dog (<name>)that is <age> old. <day> <name> was not looking to well, at <time> pm mom wanted to take <name> to the Vet. This is <day> ans <name>'s <professional_practitioner> said there is nothing else can be done,  <name> needs to be put to sleep. Mom doesnt want to go live without <name>. Dad is about to go crazy. What can we do to make her stop talking about dying?	A:Bring another dog home & see how she does. Or a kitten. 


A:I saw your post and hope you don't mind me posting my views. Do you have pictures of <name>? if not then take a few of her now. second,  losing a pet can be as hard as losing a person so just understand that whatever happensit's going to be hard. I lost <name> my cat of <age> last <month> and it was so hard to have him put down.  Talk to your mom and tell her every chance you can that <name>'s time here is limited andthat she's not well or happy anymore and should be put to sleep to ease her pain. that'llbe the hard part is explain it to your mom simply by letting her know that <name> is in great amount of painand that the humane thing is to put her to sleep,  and that you've had <time_period> with <name> and that youhave pictures to look at and maybe frame some pictures. Good Luck to you as this will be a hard time for youyou have my sympathies in the up and coming loss of your pet. ((((((((((((((((((((((((((((HUGZ)))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))))


A:I'm not sure how gone your mother is with her Az but I like the idea of getting her another dog,  maybe one that looks like <name>. You can always say,  if you find a dog like <name>,  that it was a mistake and you brought <name> home. Sometimes we have to do these little tricks to keep them happy.  We all know that losing a beloved pet is horrible and they're irreplacable but people with Az have a different way of looking at things. They tend to stick with the same emotional and physical patterns. So when something happens and it puts a wrench into that patterns,  it can aggravate,  aggitate,  or make them beligerant or depressed.  


A:Thank you all for your support and views. we had to take mom in to the see her <professional_practitioner> so she can handle losing <name>. They made her talk to <num> shrinks because she told the <professional_practitioner> about not wanting to live. they also gave her something to make her calmer. After the <professional_practitioner> we went to see <name> at the vet,  Dad took lots of picture of them together and mom was ok with letting them put <name> to sleep. ( Rest-N-Peace <name>) Next week mom as apointment to see the shrink. thanks again, 


A:Post back when you can,  and I hope your mother is still doing well and I'm glaadyou had photo made. and when your sure she might be up to it maybe think about getting another pet as pets can be the best of therapy (hint if your not allergicto cats a cat can be a good pet and they usually live longer than dogs,  but it depends on the breed,  pure breeds have shorter lives it seems. Anyways I wish you well in what you decide to do. well wishes to you. 


A:When I was sick the thing that made me feel the best were dogs. I loved them. And they were easy friends for me. The did not know I was sick and they always loved me. I ended up with a total of <num> dogs. When I lost my favorite dog in <month>. I thought I was going to die. I even had him with me during my treatment for my alztheimiers at <institution>. I would come go to pet smart or a shelter and tell them that you are looking for a older dog. not a puppy right now,  too much work. And see if you can find a nice old dog that someone lost or did not want. The older dog will be most grateful.  Be sure to get a nice dog. No pit bulls mix's or anything. Then bring it home to your mom. If she has a big heart and I am sure she does. tell her something like. you wer driving down the road and look what you found. And what should you do with the dog. Then let it feel like it is her idea to be saving the dog. Instead of it being put on her. Sounds sort of silly. But it will give her a great sense of worth to save another. She will still get very depressed when she loses' her main dog. If her main dog is a male,  then be sure to get another dog of the same gender. I tend to like male dogs better. My baby bull dog then became my baby after losing my favorite <name>.  Song birds are nice too. Like a male canary who sings their heart out everytime I enter a room. These little things give so much joy and sort of a distraction,  if you will,  to our own self.  


A:Oh. also buy her a pretty plant. or more. I like Orchids because you cannot kill them. And the blooms last for <name>. You can get them at Home depot. And that can be something beautiful that she can look at and enjoy and she can care of it easily. It will make her happy. What women does not like flowers?
