T:Fears-Mother thinks I'm the other woman	
Q:How do I deal with this. 
 <day> I realized that not only does she associate my face with the other woman,  but also my name. 
 I have <num> sisters and it happens to them on occasion where mom thinks they are having an affair with dad. 
 She even suspected <num> of her grand daughters. 
 Always accusing. 
 However,  I seem to be the focus and it hurts immensely and obviously my presence hurts her,  agitates her greatly,  which in turn upsets my dad. 
 Do I stay away for <time_period> in hopes she'll forget? Do I disguise myself? Do I use a different name? What should I do. 
 I'm so incredibly down in the dumps about this. 
 <day> at a wedding reception I was standing next to my mom and my dad on the other side of her wheelchair and after about <time_period>,  one of my sisters whispered in my hear,  Dad said you need to leave. 
 Can you imagine hearing those words? I cannot get them out of my head	A:I know this has got to be rough on you and even if you tell yourself that it's not really her speaking,  it's still a tough blow. 
 Unfortunately there is nothing you can do but keep trying to be there for her. 
 It's nothing personal. 
 She is stuck in her own little world and no matter what anybody says,  it doesn't change the fact that she's not in her right mind. 
 It's not her speaking but her dementia. 
 I had a bout of that with my gma,  but unfortunately the victim was my then <name> year old daughter. 
 It wasn't the other woman but my gma would always accuse my daughter of stealing. 
 I know it's tough to deal with dementia as an adult but it's even worse for a child. 
 All you can really do is bite your tongue and honestly,  try not to take it personal. 
 This is not your mother speaking but an alter ego so to speak. 
  


A:My dad accused my sister of stealing his wallet. 
 She was devastated and wanted to stop helping him. 
 Then he did the same thing to our brother which helped a little bit. 
  The worst that I would get was when he would CALL ME to tell me he can't find his phone. 
 When I asked him what he was using to CALL ME a little light bulb would go off. 
 So hang tight,  maybe she'll get over this. 
 
